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Hoda Abrahim

Matchmaker and Relationship Coach

Hoda Abrahim is a matchmaker and relationship coach based in Houston, Texas. With over 7 years of experience, Hoda is the founder of the premier Muslim matchmaking service Love, Inshallah, and has helped connect over 150 couples to date. She helps people navigate love with clarity, purpose, and marriage in mind, guiding them toward relationships that are rooted in commitment, growth, and shared values. She is also the star of Hulu’s Muslim Matchmaker, bringing a fresh, fearless perspective to love, dating, and identity. Hoda has been featured in NPR, Entertainment Weekly, People Magazine, The Wrap, ABC, and numerous other publications. She studied Computer Science and Business at North Carolina Central University and built a successful career in tech and business before stepping into the world of matchmaking.

Professional Achievements

  • Featured on NPR’s The 1A, People Magazine, Cosmopolitan, Vogue Arabia, and the Associated Press
  • Star of Hulu’s Muslim Matchmaker, which highlights her work supporting Muslim singles in their search for marriage
  • Speaker and contributor at major cultural and technology conferences, including SXSW, where she speaks on relationships, identity, and the evolving landscape of modern matchmaking

Favorite Piece of Advice

My advice is to stop looking for perfection and start looking for alignment. Strong marriages are built on shared values, emotional readiness, and commitment, not on checking every box.

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Forum Comments (8)

Have I found the one?
My answer is going to be really silly, and I don't know how to explain it, but when you know, you know. I really do think that there's this feeling that clicks into place that tells you, "Oh, I met my person," and "I can see a happy and healthy future with them." If you have a lot of question marks around if they're really the one, that's a yellow flag. Feeling lukewarm might also tell you they aren't the one.
How do you deal with insecurities in a relationship?
If you have an insecure feeling about your relationship, that's probably already a yellow flag, because our gut and intuition are very, very smart. If there are things that are making you question your relationship, I would sit with those questions and ask yourself, "Is this based on anxiety and things that aren't real or that are just perceived, or is this based on real data?" I would actually sit and make a list of all the things you're thinking and feeling that you're feeling a little icky or weird about. Analyze one by one, "Is this just because I have anxiety and I'm overthinking, or is this based on something real?" If you find that your feelings are based on real things that are happening, and you don't know why they're happening, then I would talk to your partner about it.

If it's based on anxiety, because that's a real part of a relationship that you can't always control, I would probably also talk to your partner about the anxieties you're having and see if there's a way that they can reassure you. There is a fine line here, though, because you don't want to be in a relationship where your partner is constantly having to reassure you everything's okay, because that's frustrating for them. So if it is based on bigger anxieties, then you likely need to go to therapy and work on them, because there might be some bigger things you need to address on why you're doubting or questioning if there isn't something tangible or any data feeding those feelings.
Dating: I really want to get into a relationship
If you really want to meet somebody, but it's just not working out for whatever reason, I would enlist your friends and family to help you. Put out to them and into the world a statement like, "Hey, I really want to meet somebody. Do you know anybody?" This reminds them that you're available and actively looking. You'd be surprised how many people would be willing to actually introduce you to somebody that they know.
Physical Contact on a First Date: How Much Is Appropriate?
I have a different philosophy from most people. I say zero physical contact on the first date. I am very much of the philosophy that you should talk as much as you can, and physical contact should come later, because you don't want that to cloud your emotional judgment.
What are examples of the best texts to send after a date?
Follow-up texts are really important. If you had a good time, it's important for you to let them know. I would just say, "Hey, I had a really great time tonight. I would love to see you again," or, "I had a really great time tonight. Is there a time next week when we could meet up?" Even following up with a phone call is sometimes really helpful to keep them thinking about you. In general, any follow-up is helpful. You could even ask, "How is your morning going?" the day after, to leave room for conversation.
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Co-authored Articles (11)

8 Proven Ways to Keep a Man Interested in You

How to overcome disagreements & stay committedSo the man you like is showing you signs that he's interested in you? Congratulations! That's half the battle! Now you want to know how to keep him interested. If he's a good...

What “The One Who Got Away” Really Means (And How to Handle It)

Matchmaker and relationship coach Hoda Abrahim shares what to do if the timing just wasn’t rightWe’ve all heard the phrase “the one who got away” at some point in our lives, but what does that actually mean? Is i...

How to

Stop Thinking About Someone Who Rejected You

Relationship coach Hoda Abrahim explains how to handle & heal from rejectionRejection hurts and it’s easy to get caught up in those painful feelings–especially if you just got rejected by your crush. If you're having...

What is Dating? The Different Types of Dating, Explained

What it means to be "dating" in the modern eraDating used to be an easy thing to define, but now there are so many other terms floating around—from "hanging out," or "just talking," to "in a relationship"—that it can...

12 Examples of Mixed Signals from Guys

Relationship coach Hoda Abrahim goes over common mixed signals a guy might giveWhen you’re getting mixed signals from a guy you like, it can feel frustrating and confusing—does he actually want to be with you or not?...

What to Do If Your Relationship Is Emotionally Draining

Relationship coach Hoda Abrahim explains how to handle an emotionally draining relationshipWhen your romantic relationship is draining you emotionally, you might feel desperate to fix it. If you spend every free moment w...

Why Is Dating So Difficult? 6 Possible Reasons and Solutions

Uncovering what’s so different about modern datingYou may be single and ready to mingle, but sometimes, the dating scene can get you down. Don’t worry—you’re definitely not the only one dealing with burnout after...

What to Do After Being Blown Off by a Guy

Relationship coach Hoda Abrahim explains what to say after a guy blows you off If a guy keeps blowing you off, it’s hard to know what to do. Do you text and ask what’s up, or do you just wait until he gives you a goo...

Feel like Giving up on Love? Here's Why & What to Do About It

How to live a happy and healthy life with or without romance From blockbuster rom-coms to Hallmark cards to that one girl from high school’s engagement photos on Instagram, romantic love is everywhere you look. So when...

How to Mend a Strained Relationship (Plus, How to Tell if You’re in One)

Expert psychologists weigh in on how to ease tension with your partner Have you been feeling isolated, confused, or challenged in your relationship? If so, you may be in a strained relationship—an informal term for a c...

Are Relationships Supposed to Be Hard?

You've probably heard that relationships take work, but what does that actually mean? Since all relationships go through their ups and downs, you might be wondering what's normal in a healthy relationship and what might...