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How should I end my friendship

REFLECTIVE_WAFFLES
REFLECTIVE_WAFFLES
12/09/25 7:57pm
So I have this toxic friend, she D.A.R.V.O.s on me often and is really manipulative, I feel like if I end it she'll make everything my fault because I'm her only friend, then she'll just go to my friends. I want to end it, but how do I???
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Imsoinlovewithuuu
Imsoinlovewithuuu
12/12/25 3:22pm
you can't control how she reacts, only how you act. You recognize her potential D.A.R.V.O. (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim & Offender) and manipulation, and decide now that it doesn't matter. Her feelings are not UR responsibility.Tell her in a text, email, or a public place where she can't cause a scene. A simple, "Our friendship is no longer healthy for me, and I need to end it. I wish you the best" is enough. Don't JADE like Justify, Argue, Defend, or Explain. She will poke, prod, and twist your words. Don't fall for it. Repeat the boundary like a broken record: "I've made my decision," or "As I said, I'm ending the friendship." This is where the magic happens. Block her number, social media, and email immediately after sending the message. You don't owe her a conversation and and and Talk to your friends first like Get ahead of it. Give your REAL friends a heads-up that you've ended a toxic friendship and that your "friend" might be spreading rumors or gossip after the fact. True friends will understand. You might feel guilty, but that's just the old habit. Focus on how much lighter you'll feel without all that manipulation since she's red asf.You are strong enough to walk away. It's going to be messy because she will try to make it messy, but the mess is temporary, and your freedom is forever SAME COUNTING FOR YOUR PEACE OF MIND.
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WikiMountainLeaper231
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12/11/25 1:59pm
Just start ignoring her and try not to engage in conversation. (At least that worked for me)
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Fireblossom
Fireblossom
12/11/25 12:13am
You should just say it is not working out and that maybe later they could try again to be friends.
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