I came out to my best friend and I'm not sure if she's being homophobic or what. I need help!
So I told my best friend that I am Bisexual and that I had a crush on a girl on my surfing team. My Bff said "you don't know that because you haven't kissed her". I said, "That you didn't kiss a boy before you started having crushes on them". She said, " yeah but that's different because everybody is born straight, just for some that changes, so I never had to question it". I said, "That's not how it works, but I just wanted to let you know I'm bisexual". She said, "Why are you making this a big deal?" I said," I'm not trying to, I just wanted to let you know." She said " ok but if your family kicks you out don't come crying to me." I walked away. A few days later on saturday me and my whole friend group met at the mall. When I got their one of them said " how come you only told her that you bisexual and not us?" I said" I was you guys just weren't their that day." " A different girl spoke up and said that they all decided mutually that I cannot attend any more sleep overs with them because it's like if a boy is over and they like girls". So right now I am confused and alone and honestly scared to tell my family after all this. I don't know what to do and if they are being homophobic or not.
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wow that is insane we need a friend option my cousin is the same way except with my gender I'm so sorry you are going through that
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Your friends are wildly homophobic. Even if they don't explicitly realize it. Please, please, please leave them, and find new friends. From what you've said, they absolutely suck, and you deserve way better. Wishing you the best with surfing-team girl, too!
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Your friends are wildly homophobic. Even if they don't explicitly realize it. Please, please, please leave them, and find new friends. From what you've said, they absolutely suck, and you deserve way better. Wishing you the best with surfing-team girl, too!
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Wow this is so horrible and abusive. this is 100% homophobia, and I'm so sorry this is happening. You don't need to come out until you are ready, you don't owe it to anyone. I hope it gets better. You could come out to someone you don't see often (e.g. aunt uncle or auncle) and see how they react? If they react well you could talk to them about this.
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Worse, when we watched Ginny and Georgia together as friends like normal, she said, " Look, this is what happens when people go gay. It never works out.
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