The Best Ways to Attract an Aquarius Man through Text or In Person

Psychic astrologer Stina Garbis explains how to catch an Aquarius’ attention & make him fall in love

Quirky, brilliant, and caring, Aquarians are quite the catch. If you’ve got your eye on an Aquarius guy and are wondering how to make him interested in you, we’ve got you covered! We spoke with professional astrologers to learn all the best ways to get his attention and capture his heart, with sample text messages to get the ball rolling. Keep on reading to learn more!

How do you make an Aquarius man attracted to you?

Psychic astrologer Stina Garbis says to start out as an Aquarius man’s friend—this sign likes to blend love and friendship. Talk to him about his hobbies and interests, and get involved with what he likes. Captivate him with your intellect by having deep conversations about life and humanity.

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Be his friend.

  1. For an Aquarius man, romance happens through friendship.
    To capture an Aquarius man’s heart, psychic astrologer Stina Garbis says it’s important to start off as a friend, as this air sign needs a lover who’s also a pal.[1] So, simply listen to him, check on the things he tells you about (like his hobbies, plans, and family), and of course, hang out and joke around together. Forging a friendship lays the groundwork for a love connection!
    • What to text him: Send a “Hey, how’s it going? 😊” text every few days or text him funny pictures and videos so he knows you’re thinking of him. If he’s starting a new job soon, send him a good luck text in the morning.
    • Don’t be alarmed if it takes a while for an Aquarius to text you back. They are notoriously slow responders, and it’s nothing personal—more often than not, their attention is simply on something else. This doesn’t mean that they don’t value you!
    • Garbis notes that this sign blends love and friendship and says, “If an Aquarius is friends with you, they are interested in you.”[2]
    • Garbis adds that Aquarians look for someone who’s a good listener and sounding board.[3] Being a good friend to your Aqua guy shows him that you’ll be a good partner!
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    Meet the wikiHow Experts

    Stina Garbis is a psychic astrologer with over 30 years of experience doing astrological and tarot card readings.

    Angel Eyedealism is a professional astrologer with nearly 30 years of astrology experience. She specializes in relocation astrology and astrocartography.

    Tali & Ophira Edut, also known as the AstroTwins, are astrologers and founders of the horoscope website Astrostyle.

    Kyle Thomas is an astrologer and the official resident astrologer for PEOPLE Magazine. He’s also the official astrologer for @Horoscopes + @Horo.ScopesDaily.

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Bond over your mutual interests.

  1. Aquarians open up when they’re talking about their interests.
    So, this is a crucial part of getting to know this intellectual sign. Ask your Aquarius guy about his hobbies and the topics he enjoys thinking, reading, and talking about, and let him know what you have in common. Then, connect with him by talking about your mutual interests and asking him his opinions and thoughts. Be curious about what he says, and show genuine interest in learning about what he has to say.
    • What to text him: Send him videos and articles about your mutual interest, like a new album your favorite artist released. Personalize your message and say something like, “This made me think of what you were saying about…”.
    • Let him know that he should do the same for you, and share your thoughts about whatever he sends over—finding an intellectual companion and a romantic one go hand-in-hand for an Aquarius!
    • Aquarians love interesting people, so tell him about the hobbies and interests you don’t have in common, too! For instance, tell him about your creative pursuits, pastimes, classes you’re taking, travel plans, and favorite shows, books, and music artists.
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Engage him in deep, philosophical convos.

  1. Woman sitting on her couch having a text conversation.
    The key to an Aquarius man’s heart is stimulating his mind. Like all air signs, Aquarians enjoy discussing intellectual and abstract topics, says professional astrologer Angel Eyedealism.[4] So, be sure to show off your curiosity and intelligence! Whenever you text or hang out, take your conversations deeper by asking him hypothetical questions, like how he thinks we should spend our time on Earth, or talking about complex topics like free will, the universe, and technology.[5]
    • What to text him: Pose a philosophical question, like, “Do humans have souls?” Or, ask him a question, like “What’s a book or movie that’s made an impression on you?” You’ll likely get a thoughtful and eager message in response.
    • If there’s one thing Aquarians can’t stand, it’s clichés. So be careful when wording your message! A more original question, like “Do you ever feel like we’re wasting our lives by following the expectations of other people?” would work better than “What’s the meaning of life?”, even though an Aquarius man would likely have a lot to say about either topic!
    • Eyedealism notes that engaging an Aquarius man mentally is one of the best ways to attract him. If you can match his intellect, he’ll definitely be impressed![6]
    • Eyedealism also says it’s important not to get too personal with an Aquarius too fast.[7] These signs don’t open up easily, which is why it’s a good idea to talk to them about abstract, intellectual topics first!
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Be mysterious.

  1. Aquarian men are driven by curiosity. So, he can’t help but chase you if he thinks you’re a puzzle they need to solve. When you talk or hang out, don’t answer all of his questions or give away every detail about your life. If he asks you about your plans, history, or funny stories, offer a few nuggets of info, but keep more to yourself to pique his interest and keep him coming back for more.
    • What to text him: If he asks you about your favorite place you’ve visited, say something like, “Oh wow, there are so many to choose! Brazil was amazing, and I have so many stories to share from that trip. Maybe for another day 😉”
    • Even waiting a day to text him back helps build the excitement and tension!
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Talk to him about politics.

  1. As a humanitarian, Aquarius likes people who care about the world.
    Aquarians care deeply about people and politics, and they want a partner who’s just as involved as they are. So, discuss major news events or global issues with him to catch his attention (plus, he’ll probably give you an interesting perspective to consider in return!). Or, think about the political issues you care about, and ask your Aquarius man what he thinks. If you can stimulate a friendly debate, even better![8]
    • What to text him: If there are any political scandals in the news, text him a “Did you see this? 🤔” message—chances are, he already has, and is itching to talk about it! Sending a political meme is another great option if you’re struggling to come up with another topic.
    • Don’t worry too much about offending him over a disagreement—so long as things remain civil, Aquarians are known for being open-minded and can enjoy differences in opinion.
    • There’s a reason Aquarians are so interested in politics. Their ruling planet, Uranus, is associated with revolutions, which makes Aquarius the most progressive of all the zodiac signs.
    • There’s a lot of good advice about staying away from talking about politics when meeting a new person, but this might not be possible for too long with an Aquarius man!
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Get involved with his hobbies.

  1. Aquarians are attracted to people who support their unique passions. To catch an Aquarius guy’s eye, Garbis suggests adopting the hobbies and interests that he enjoys.[9] Or, at the very least, support his passions and show interest in what he does. For instance, Garbis says if he’s into video games, play with him or ask him which new releases he’s excited about. If he likes to go to comic or sci-fi conventions, tag along with him (and even dress up!).[10]
    • What to text him: If you can’t participate in his hobbies in person, check in with him about how they’re going. If he’s working on a new sculpture, ask him to snap a pic so you can see his progress.
    • Aquarians just want someone who supports and encourages their interests and quirks! When he sees that you care about what he likes, he’s bound to catch feelings.
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Express your beliefs and passions.

  1. Aquarians are drawn to people who fight for what they believe in. So, get active in your community to show him that you have strong opinions and care about what’s happening around you. For instance, volunteer with a cause you support, help with fundraising events that you’re passionate about, participate in protests, and invite him to tag along!
    • What to text him: Pass along any virtual petitions to raise awareness about things you're passionate about. For instance, send him a link and something like, “Hey, have you heard about this? I’m super passionate about getting this issue fixed!”
    • It’s not unusual to find Aquarians at protests, signing petitions, or otherwise trying to create what they see as a better future. If your Aquarius man isn’t an activist himself, it’s likely that he respects the work that activists do.[11]
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Show off your quirky side.

  1. Aquarians are drawn to weird senses of humor and niche interests.
    Aquarius’s ruling planet, Uranus, spins on its side, which makes this sign pretty eccentric, says astrologers Tali & Ophira Edut.[12] He likes quirky people, so don’t be afraid to be weird and silly with him, says Garbis![13] For instance, talk about your unconventional tastes in movies or music, share your zany opinions or theories, and send him your wildest memes.[14]
    • What to text him: Open a message by saying, “It’s a little weird, but I…” to get your Aquarius’ attention. Or, text him about something embarrassing or confess that you have an odd habit. The weirder, the better when it comes to Aquarius!
    • If you show him what makes you special and unique, an Aquarius man is sure to be interested. Being special is what he values most about himself.
    • Don’t force yourself to be anything you’re not, though! Tali & Ophira Edut say it’s just important that you let Aquarius march to the beat of his own drum and encourage his weirdness. You don’t have to be eccentric like him, just don’t criticize his quirkiness.[15]
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Open up about yourself.

  1. Aquarians are good listeners and like discussing meaningful topics.
    This sign is at its best when given the opportunity to support others, as he cares deeply about people. Think about what’s strongly impacted you, or something that’s bothering you. It can be your relationship with your family, or a decision that changed your direction in life. Then, talk to him about it to grow closer and more connected.
    • What to text him: Open up a text convo with a message like, “Hey, I wanted to talk to you about something important to me.” It’ll capture his interest very fast.
    • According to Garbis, it’s a big sign that an Aquarius man likes you if he texts you back and asks you questions, and also tells you what’s on his mind.[16]
    • Aquarians don’t see any topic as off-limits. He’ll be grateful that you trust him enough to open up about some of your deeper desires, dreams, and fears.[17]
    • Be careful not to overburden an Aquarius man when you’re just getting to know him. This sign can feel easily suffocated when asked to take care of others’ emotions. It’s best to demonstrate self-reliance, which is one of the qualities that Aquarians prize most.
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Flirt with him.

  1. Tease and compliment him so he knows you’re interested.
    Eyedealism notes that Aquarians tend to intellectualize love and keep things friendly. So, they need to be told that you’re physically into them, which will get them to act on it![18] Impress him with a flirty joke about how charming you find him or boost his ego with a genuine compliment. These guys like to be challenged, to tease him a little, too.[19]
    • What to text him: He loves wit and banter, so throw in a winky-face emoji after a clever response to one of his texts. Or, make flirty references to earlier conversations—your Aquarius guy will be thrilled to develop inside jokes with you!
    • Flirting with an Aquarius over text is easier than with most other signs: Aquarians like mental stimulation more than anything, and physical presence isn’t necessary to keep their attention.
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Show off your unique style.

  1. Aquarians love independent thinkers and dressers! According to Garbis, wearing something unique, different, and edgy is sure to catch an Aquarius man’s attention.[20] She suggests adding a bold touch to your outfit, whether that’s a bright scarf or an antique brooch. Whatever you wear, Garbis says it’s just important that you show your creative and innovative side. Aquarians like trendsetters who inspire them![21]
    • What to text him: If you can’t show off to your Aquarius guy in person, send him a picture of your outfits, hairstyles, or makeup looks with a message like, “What do you think about this? 😉”
    • Don’t change yourself to be who you think Aquarius will like, though. Aquarians love authenticity most of all. If you’re not into taking bold and daring fashion risks, that’s totally fine!
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Be friends with his friends.

  1. Capture an Aquarius guy’s heart by hanging out with his friends. The secret to attracting an Aquarius is to get into their friend circle, says Garbis.[22] According to astrologer Kyle Thomas, Aquarians often prioritize friendships over romantic connections.[23] And because they often turn friends into lovers, showing him that you can get along with the people he holds most dear is sure to get his attention!
    • What to text him: Tell him that you loved being able to meet his friends. Regularly check in about them to see how they’re doing, too.
    • When you make plans with him, tell him that he’s welcome to invite his buddies along. Or, if you see him out with his friends, make sure to talk to them.
    • Aquarians like games, so Garbis suggests playing board or video games when you hang out with him and his friends.[24]
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Be adventurous, curious, and open-minded.

  1. Aquarians are free-spirited signs who like to do and think about new things. So, show him that you’re spontaneous and open-minded, too. When you make plans to hang out, suggest exciting activities like hiking a hidden trail or breaking out an escape room. Keep your plans loose so there’s room for spontaneity, and see where the rest of the day takes you![25]
    • What to text him: Text him about all the fun things you want to do, like, “I’m going sky-diving this year,” or “I’m making it my mission to try every pizza place in town.”
    • When your Aquarius guy invites you out, be open to what he suggests. He’ll appreciate you being willing to try new things, whether that’s a cooking class, a sport, or an indie documentary.
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Be warm and friendly.

  1. Aquarians can be cold, but they appreciate warmth from other people.
    Aquarius guys don’t mean to come off as aloof or unemotional—they’re just extremely rational and logical people! Even if they can’t always reciprocate, they’re drawn to friendliness and kindness in other people. Offer your Aquarius compliments, especially on interesting ideas they have, and always be kind.
    • What to text him: Brighten up your Aquarius’ day with sweet messages like, “I hope you had a nice day at work,” or “Good luck tomorrow! You’re going to ace that presentation!”
    • Use plenty of emojis in your messages—they will make your Aquarius guy feel comfortable and accepted by you.
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Be independent and live your own life.

  1. Aquarius is independent and self-reliant, and loves people who are, too.
    It seems a little counterintuitive, but by showing an Aquarius guy that you don’t need him, you’ll attract him! Stay busy doing all the things you love, like hanging out with friends, pursuing interesting activities, and taking fun trips. He’ll be impressed by the full life you lead, and be even more tempted to join in.[26]
    • What to text him: If you’re visiting a new place, send him a photo and say, “This place is gorgeous! You’ve got to check it out some day 🤩” If he asks to hang out and you're busy, be upfront about having other plans: “Sorry, I’m getting dinner with Chelsi! Maybe we can do something next week?”
    • If you want to date an Aquarius, Garbis says it’s definitely important to have your own passions, hobbies, and pursuits. Aquarians still want to maintain their own lives, so proving that you are self-sufficient and confident is super attractive to them.[27]
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Give him his space.

  1. Avoid overwhelming an Aquarius, as this can make him run the other way.
    As Eyedealism explains, Aquarians highly value freedom and need a lot of space.[28] If he declines your invitation to hang out or takes a few days to respond to your text, know that that’s totally normal. Take that as your cue to give him space and avoid overwhelming him with additional texts or pressuring him for a response. He’ll reach out to you in his own time, and definitely appreciate your understanding.[29]
    • What to text him: If he apologizes for his late response, send him a forgiving reply, such as “Don’t worry about it, I’m happy that I can talk to you now 😊” He’ll be grateful for your patience and that you respect his need to be left alone.
    • If an Aquarius takes his time responding to you, it’s okay for you to do the same. That way, you won’t make him feel as though you’ve been waiting all day for a response from him.
    • Aquarians aren’t likely to send good morning texts, and may not respond to them either—these conventions can seem silly to them. They’d much rather have a conversation when someone has something that they want to discuss.
    • Aquarians can come off as aloof and distant. While that can feel frustrating sometimes, it’s important to remember that that’s just their personality—it doesn’t reflect how they feel about you.
    • If it takes your Aquarius guy more than a week to respond to your messages, check in with him to see what’s up. While he might not be the best texter in the world, if he cares about you, he will show up for you.
    • If an Aquarius continues to be distant, though, it might be a sign that he’s not interested.
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Be patient with him.

  1. Don’t rush your Aquarius guy to commit.
    While Aquarian guys appear cool on the outside, they’re thoughtful and sensitive creatures on the inside. They’re often slow to open up, so it’s important not to push yourself onto him too strongly. He can get scared off if he feels like you’re asking him to be vulnerable or commit before he’s ready. So, take your time with him, have great conversations, and develop a good dynamic—he’ll let you know when he wants to take things to the next level.[30]
    • What to text him: Keep getting to know your Aquarius man with fun and lighthearted messages, like, “If you could only eat one thing for the rest of your life, what would it be?”
    • Garbis explains that Aquarians “need to be casual about commitment and not fussy over pushing the relationship.” They like to go with the flow and need someone who lets them be themselves.[31]
    Liz Greene
    Liz Greene, Astrologer and Psychologist

    Give an Aquarius space to be himself without fear of 'burning the house down.' Allow him the freedom to explore ideas, make mistakes, and draw his own conclusions. Show you respect his independence and don't aim to control his actions. Thoughtful texts giving him room to respond on his own time build trust. Let conversations wander without demanding constant contact. Your detachment and patience will intrigue this sign who needs liberty to come closer.

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Be yourself.

  1. Above all, an Aquarius man is looking for someone who’s true to themselves. They’re independent thinkers who admire people who are comfortable and confident in their own skin. Express yourself freely, from your opinions and passions to the clothes you wear, and he’s sure to take notice!

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WikiNarwhalDancer168
WikiNarwhalDancer168
Hi all, I'm a 26F and I have a big crush on this guy, so naturally I tried to find out his sign as quickly as possible, lol. He's an Aquarius! I have never dated an Aquarius before and am curious about what it's like. Give me th good, the bad, and the ugly please!
Kyle Thomas
Kyle Thomas
Astrologer
Aquarians are intellectually curious, community-oriented, and visionary. They're focused on understanding humanity, often prioritizing friendships and networks over romantic love. This detachment can make them seem unemotional, but they value genuine connection.
The challenge is that once they form an opinion, they are incredibly stubborn. As a fixed air sign, they can be resistant to change. Additionally, they can seem aloof or emotionally unavailable because they prefer analyzing feelings over experiencing them deeply. However, when committed, they are loyal and devoted in their own unique way. They can be romantic if they understand that it's important to their partner, but it often comes from an intellectual space rather than an emotional one.
Angel Eyedealism
Angel Eyedealism
Astrologer & Performance Artist
Aquarius is a sign that needs space for intellectual detachment. And don't get too personal too fast. Aquarians hate that, because they're about thoughts and concepts and intellectualism. So on a first date with an Aquarius, asking him something super, super personal is not cool. Instead, talk about ideas and concepts, and that will get him to relax a little bit so you can gain more intimacy. At the same time, since Aquarians are so in their head, you definitely need to let them know that you're physically and sexually interested in them, because otherwise it will just stay in their head as a thought or as a construct of an idea, as opposed to real physical or emotional intimacy. Tl;dr, breach physical or intimate emotionality with an Aquarius carefully!
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