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Chantal Heide

Dating Coach

Chantal Heide is a dating and relationship coach based in Ontario, Canada. With over 17 years of experience, Chantal is known as Canada’s Dating Coach with an approach informed by her experience as a behaviorist and social scientist. Her mission is to help singles navigate the dating game and better express the love that resides within them. She shares her valuable insights like choosing the right men, achieving a zero-fighting relationship, and her No Kissing for 3 Months dating rule, through live online seminars, 1:1 coaching sessions, and on social media to over 1 million followers across multiple platforms. Chantal is also the host of the My Dating & Relationship Podcast and the author of over 10 books, including Fix That Shit, No More Assholes, and Comeback Queen. She is also a frequent contributor to HuffPost, CBC, Global News, and more.

Professional Achievements

  • Has won 3 Life Coaching Awards

Favorite Piece of Advice

Chantal loves to teach people the power of their own minds and how to use logic, meditation, and science to facilitate healthy life choices and relationship building. Though her teaching is highly practical in nature, their results create intensely positive emotional rewards.

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Gym pick up lines that actually work
You have to be sensitive with the gym, because people go to get their stuff done, not to be approached.

So, try to attract them in increments. You have to catch their eye first. When you catch their eye, give them a smile. Did they smile back? If they smiled back, that's a good sign.

If they look at you for more than three seconds, that's kind of an invitation because they seem to be interested. That's not just a glance and a dismiss. It's an, "I'm seeing you." Make sure to pay attention and only make a move once you're receiving clear interest. After that, you can approach them and give them a compliment.

People love compliments. "I really love your form. I really love how you did that. I really love your outfit." From there, have a short conversation. "Do you come here a lot? I haven't noticed you before."

Then you have to add an invitation. "Do you want to work out together?" If they say no, obviously, you have to respect that. If it seems like they're close to the end of their workout, say, "Do you want to get together for a coffee sometime?"

Always keep in mind that the gym is like a workplace. You have to respect people there. If you aren't sure about making a move, don't make one.
any tips on how to kindly get him to go away?
You don't owe them a sit-down. This is not a relationship. You didn't commit to this person. You truly don't owe them anything.

I recommend a text message. "Hey, I've been doing some thinking. I don't feel this is a good fit for me, but I really do wish you all the best." That's it.

If they call you, or if they reply with anything other than acceptance of what you say, block them. If they try to call you, block them.
What are signs a first date went well, after the date?
Number one is that you can't stop smiling afterwards. The date's barely even over, and you're thinking, "When can I see them again?" You feel warm, fuzzy, and don't have any true red flags that you're stewing over. A great date is going to leave you feeling high — literally energized.
What are end-of-the-date signals that show a first date went well?
Number one is that you can't stop smiling afterwards. The date's barely even over, and you're thinking, "When can I see them again?" You feel warm, fuzzy, and don't have any true red flags that you're stewing over.

A great date is going to leave you feeling high — literally energized. If your date is smiling a lot and expresses verbal desire to see you again, those are great signs they're feeling it too.
What does it mean if a date lasted longer than expected?
To me, that's a great sign. Dating means that you're looking for somebody to spend a lot of time with. If you can spend a long time on a date together (and enjoy it all), it's a great sign for future compatibility.
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