How do I come out to my religious (and heterosexist) parents?
I’m a omnisexual (all genders but have a preference) and demisexual (all genders but have to be friends first) girlflux (hard to explain but my gender is not static [I may feel like a girl one moment and nonbinary the next. I change between the two]). I use she/they pronouns (I’m fine with she/her and they/them). I’ve been this for the past year or so and have been apart of the LGBTQ+ community for 3 years. I’ve been trying to come out for around 2 and a half years but I’m scared. And since I’ve waited so long, I have to now tell them that I’m not straight, not TECHNICALLY a girl, my pronouns, that I’m not religious, ANDD I’m dating. I need to tell them before more stuff adds on. But how?
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Hey there! Try to find supportive peers, friends, teachers, etc so that you can feel more safe and comfortable.If you already have a support bubble, great! Rely on them during this time so that even if your family doesn't accept you, they will. This will help your wellbeing a lot. Consider if you will be safe. If you may be in extreme danger, consider not coming out at all. If they do something harmful to you should you choose to come out, consider calling a helpline or CPS. Tread with caution and plan an exit strategy if they start to get angry and start saying hurtful things to you. For example: You can say, " I understand that you guys are shocked, so I'll come back and talk to you guys when we all feel calmer." If they don't accept you, then rely on your support system, distance yourself from your parents, and don't forget to love yourself for who you are! Hopefully, your parents will realize that they love you as a person and will try to be more accepting, but that is the best-case scenario and may not be what happens. If they are more open minded to your sexuality and gender, try to educate them about the LGBTQ+ community. And if their hurtful comments start to affect you and make you feel bad about yourself, remember this quote by one of my favourite queer youtubers: "You can't hate yourself, that's homophobic!" Also check out this article: https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Homophobic-Parents. Hope this helps, and sorry for the paragraph!
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Hey, I understand. My parents are supportive but I understand. I'm not sure what me saying "I understand" will do for you (probably nothing) so sorry if I got your hopes up, but a lil validation is nice sometimes. Please know I care about you.
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