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I've only had a crush on one person, and it was a girl. I really want to be able to label myself as a lesbian or bi, but I don't want to say I'm gay and then get a boyfriend or say I'm bi and my parents still think I might get with a guy. Idk what to do and I'm stressing out
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JiniretDeHyunjin143_StAAA
01/23/26 6:06am
Girl, this was me lol and what I did to figure out what I am ...I just started dating my crush that was a girl. Now I'm pan TT
if she's all you can think about then lowkey js go for it.
In my mind, dating a guy instead is a later problem. I'm guessing ur parents won't approve?
if you're in highschool you can lowkey just date for fun, but like if you're grown then I wouldn't recommend you do that.
idk if this helps, but just putting this here cuz yeah :DDD
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01/27/26 2:31pm
You don't need to label yourself if you don't want to!! And attraction can change, so you can identify as queer, or change from lesbian to bi.
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