Looking for help with my transition
I've been trying to further my transition but dysphoria is still a pain, but I don't have access to an online community or anything. I want to get a burner phone, but I don't know what kind would be a good option that's cheap, but still can run a browser well enough to be able to join a community while only using mobile data. I've been trying to get a job to afford one, but it's kinda difficult trying to find a retail job where I could identify as a girl without worrying too much about someone that I know walking in and seeing my name tag or something. any advice?
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Gender dysphoria sucks and is horrible, and I'm sorry you have to deal with it. First, let me describe what gender dysphoria is for other people reading this. Gender dysphoria is the understanding that there's something about you that doesn't feel quite right. It doesn't feel like it's meant to be. There's something just that needs to change. It is very different for everyone.
Imagine you're wearing a pair of shoes. If you're wearing a pair of shoes that fit perfectly, you go about your daily life and never think of them again. You just wear them. You walk around, you do your work, everything's great? However, if you're wearing a pair of shoes where one is too small or one is too big. Every step you take, you feel it. Every moment, it's on your mind. You might be able to push it to the back of your mind, and you might be able to go on with your daily life and do your work, but it's always there. It's always nagging at you. It's always going to be until it's resolved, until you take those shoes off and you get ones that fit correctly. That's what gender dysphoria is.
So with gender dysphoria, first comes identifying it. Sometimes you feel off about yourself, and you feel like there's something missing, but it's not always clear what it is or that it's dysphoria. My first and best recommendation is therapy. I strongly recommend talking to a gender therapist — someone who is licensed and experienced in working with transgender individuals. Do not just go to any therapist; make sure they have a background in gender.
They will help you understand what it is that needs to change for you to work through the dysphoria. It might be your clothes or your hair. It could be something external that needs to change (that would require surgery), or it could be hormones. It's really important to work with someone who is safe and understanding and who learns about you.
I know money is an issue, so I echo the recommendations of other readers here. Sometimes, gender therapists will be able to work with your financial situation or take insurance. Try to connect with one whenever you are able and see what options you have.
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Imagine you're wearing a pair of shoes. If you're wearing a pair of shoes that fit perfectly, you go about your daily life and never think of them again. You just wear them. You walk around, you do your work, everything's great? However, if you're wearing a pair of shoes where one is too small or one is too big. Every step you take, you feel it. Every moment, it's on your mind. You might be able to push it to the back of your mind, and you might be able to go on with your daily life and do your work, but it's always there. It's always nagging at you. It's always going to be until it's resolved, until you take those shoes off and you get ones that fit correctly. That's what gender dysphoria is.
So with gender dysphoria, first comes identifying it. Sometimes you feel off about yourself, and you feel like there's something missing, but it's not always clear what it is or that it's dysphoria. My first and best recommendation is therapy. I strongly recommend talking to a gender therapist — someone who is licensed and experienced in working with transgender individuals. Do not just go to any therapist; make sure they have a background in gender.
They will help you understand what it is that needs to change for you to work through the dysphoria. It might be your clothes or your hair. It could be something external that needs to change (that would require surgery), or it could be hormones. It's really important to work with someone who is safe and understanding and who learns about you.
I know money is an issue, so I echo the recommendations of other readers here. Sometimes, gender therapists will be able to work with your financial situation or take insurance. Try to connect with one whenever you are able and see what options you have.
Tbh, the best thing for you to (probably) do is either A, wait, or B try to find a store/restaurant in your town that doesn't require name tags. My best advice for that is try to get a bts (behind the scenes NOT the band lol) job ie: dishwasher or something that doesn't require much face to face w customers. Or possibly a job where a name tag is optional. I know that a few places like the Ymca let you use your preferred name or your real ones. If you don't know what jobs do that, you can always use the internet. I hope I was able to help. We love u, queen! <3
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Hmm...would you be able to explain to a job place? There are definitely places where you don't have to wear a name tag. I'm sure there is some sort of charity too, I bet...I know dysphoria is hard and I feel you as I'm an enby. What is a burner phone and how would having it and an online community help with your transition? A thousand apologies if thats a dumb or nosy question, I'm just curious. Im going to do my best to help.
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A burner phone is like a cheaper version of a phone that costs like 100-200 dollars (Or more/less depending on which one you buy) it has a phone number, you can download stuff, but you don't need like an Apple Id for it or anything like that, it can usually be wiped pretty easily and it won't hurt your bank account (as much) if you need to throw it away. Basically it's just a phone that isn't usually used for long term stuff.
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you could do places like family dollar, walmart, best buy, places like that or something
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