Q&A for How to Play Fight with Your Girlfriend

Roughhousing and play fighting can be good for a relationship as long as it’s something you both enjoy! It can be a fun way to relieve stress and enjoy each other’s company. Just respect each other’s boundaries and always stop if your girlfriend doesn’t like what you’re doing.

Play fighting is any type of fight (usually physical) in which the participants go through the motions of fighting without actually trying to hurt each other. It’s a good way to release tension and build skills like cooperation, turn-taking, and self-control. It’s also just plain fun, as long as everyone is okay with it!

Every relationship is different, but many couples enjoy play fighting and roughhousing. There’s nothing wrong with it as long as you’re both okay with it and are careful not to let things get out of hand. Communicate clearly with your partner about what the limits are (for example, you might make a rule of no slapping, no pinning each other down, or instantly stopping if your partner says “stop,” “uncle,” or some other safe word).

If you think it's funny, and you're genuinely having a good time, who cares what anyone else thinks? If it really bothers you, just tell her. Say something like, "I have fun play fighting with you, but it really makes me uncomfortable when you have me pinned and other people walk in."

Stop and ask if there is anything wrong.

As a girl, I wouldn't mind if I could take you in a fight. This doesn't apply to everyone, but most girls like to know when their men are vulnerable.

You can never assure a person's smile signifies love directly. If your boyfriend smiles at you, it may mean that he is happy.

You should still approach it, but if she gets too rough, laugh and tell her to stop. It would be nice if you complimented her on how strong she is, that way she knows you know, but in a good way.

Tell them that they're hurting you and they should stop. If they don't stop, you need to sit down and have a serious conversation about boundaries.