Red String of Fate: 10 Signs You've Found Your Soulmate

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Since the dawn of man, humans have sought out romantic relationships and proposed fascinating explanations to support the idea of soulmates. One such explanation is the red string theory, or the red thread of fate, with origins in East Asian mythology. But— how can you tell if you’ve found your red string soulmate? And what exactly is the red string of fate? Keep reading to have all of your burning questions answered and determine if your current relationship has always been meant to be, with insights from meditation expert Allyn Evans on what synchronicities may confirm about your soulmate connection.

How can I tell if he’s my red string soulmate?

You feel as if you've known him forever.
You can easily communicate without words.
You feel comfortable being vulnerable with him.
You often see coincidences and synchronicities that point to him.
You can't imagine a life without him.

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How to Tell if He Is Your Red String Soulmate

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You feel as if you've known him forever. Even if you just met your crush last week, you may feel a deep, mysterious connection to him. Maybe you’ve met before, in another life, or in this one, the same gust of wind passing through you both on a fall evening. He feels familiar, and you seem to know exactly what he’s going to say before he does. If this feels like the kind of bond that transcends lifetimes, it could be a sign from the universe that he’s your red string soulmate.^{[1]
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Allyn Evans is a meditation expert. She is the Chief Executive Officer and Residential Trainer for the Monroe Institute. There, she has helped participants to undergo profound transformations, gaining a fresh outlook on life and discovering a deep sense of purpose.
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You seem to understand each other without words. You share so many core values and ideas that neither of you ever has to explain yourselves. You assume positive intent for one another, leading to very few misunderstandings. The way he speaks and moves through the world is like a language you’re fluent in, and vice versa, which is why you can share a single look and reveal everything you want to say. Some call it romance— you might call it fate.

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Communicating your thoughts and feelings with him comes very naturally. Not only is it easy for you to open up, be vulnerable, and share how you truly feel, but you can rest assured that your conversations with him are never boring. You’re excited to tell him mundane details about your day, confess fears, or discuss plans for the future. No matter what, you know that nothing will scare the right one away— and he very well could be it.^{[2]
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You trust him blindly. While trust is earned over time, you might already be able to tell that this guy is trustworthy. You get the sense that he’ll never spill your secrets, gossip behind your back, or be anything but loyal, and although your intuition may have been wrong in the past, it feels so right with him. After all, he’s not done anything so far to hurt your feelings, dismiss your ideas, or make you feel lesser than in any way, and you can’t imagine he’ll start.
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You share the same values. This is one of the most compelling factors when it comes to determining a red thread soulmate connection. Having perfectly aligned values offers a silent guarantee that your arguments will never escalate beyond silly bickering because the foundation of your relationship is strong. Agreeing on everything from religion to finances assures that your fights will be trivial, potentially relating to household chores or picking the next show to binge.^{[3]
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Life’s challenges do not shake your relationship. No matter how wonderful your relationship is, life’s challenges are sure to rear their ugly, inconvenient heads. However, even the most difficult moments that would test seasoned couples are no more than speed bumps for you two— that’s how in sync and in love you are. Hardships become lessons you learn together, helping you grow, mature, and become better versions of yourself for one another.
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You experience frequent coincidences that seem to point to him. If he's your soulmate, the universe may send you coincidences to point you in his direction. Meditation expert Allyn Evans explains that coincidences—or synchronicities—are “signs of support” from the universe that confirm that you’re in “a good place” and “receptive.”^{[4]
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- Evans elaborates on what it means to see angel numbers: “For me, angel numbers aren't just coincidental. I really do think that they are like an area code or a zip code. They're identifiers.” She describes the synchronicity event as “the glue of the message.”^{[5]
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You complement each other well. Complementing each other well doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re alike in every way, but that your differences add to your relationship success. Perhaps one of you has black cat energy while the other is more of a golden retriever, or maybe you’re a little bit country, and he’s a little bit rock and roll. Whatever the case, you’re the yin to his yang, resulting in a healthy, balanced relationship where there’s never a dull moment.^{[6]
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You have mutual respect for one another. Your red thread soulmate will never raise their voice in anger, try to manipulate you, or betray your trust. This is because they have genuine respect and admiration for you, and the feeling is mutual. He wants you to pursue your dreams and define success on your own terms, supporting you every step along the way. In turn, you offer him a safe space where he can do the same, allowing your love and respect to grow even more.
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You genuinely feel like you can’t live without him. If you feel like you don’t want to go to sleep because then you’ll have to be away from your crush for too many hours, this could be a sign that he’s your red string soulmate. Spending hours on end with him is never enough, and you miss him as soon as he goes. Although you may not have met very long ago, you can no longer imagine a life without him in it, and the thought alone sends you into a panic.^{[7]
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What is the red string theory?

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The red string theory is a belief that soulmates are connected via an invisible red string. With roots in East Asian folklore, the myth involves two people being tied together by an invisible red string, either at the ankles, thumbs, or pinky fingers. Also referred to as the red thread of fate, it may stretch or get tangled up, but according to legend, it never breaks. The unbreakable string is meant to symbolize the deep connection soulmates share, able to overcome all obstacles.^{[8]
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- The Ancient Greeks offered a similar explanation for soulmates. They believed that humans were originally born with 4 arms, 4 legs, and a head with 2 faces. Zeus split them apart, creating 2 halves that then spent their lives looking for one another.
- The red string of fate is also closely linked to the Western belief of twin flames and the Jewish concept of “bashert,” or meeting someone who was “destined.”^{[9]
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Other Soulmate Theories

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Other soulmate theories include the meeting someone twice theory and the olive theory. We all love love, which is why there are so many books, films, songs, and theories about it. These theories seek to explain the unexplainable connection one feels upon meeting someone and feeling as if you’d known them all your life. It’s like the universe finally shifts into focus, and you and your soulmate are at the center. Here are some theories that try to make sense of this soulmate sensation:
- The Invisible String Theory: Similar to the red string theory, this theory says that your soulmate has always been aligned with your life path, even before you two formally met. Maybe you crossed paths on the same field trip to Disney World, or you were born in the same hospital!
- The Meeting Someone Twice Theory: This viral TikTok theory proposes that you and your soulmate are sure to cross paths twice, as a gentle nudge from the universe that you’re meant to be. So, pay attention!
- The Olive Theory: This theory has origins in the sitcom, How I Met Your Mother, and suggests that two people are compatible if one likes olives and the other doesn’t.
  - It supports the idea that opposites attract, and also works for other foods, like Oreos. If you love the cookie part and your partner loves the cream center, you two may make an exceptionally good match!